It was about two weeks ago, when it was announced there’s not gonna be Sex and the City movie number 3. Reason for that – Kim Catrall (who plays Samantha) simply doesn’t want to do any more of the films. While all the other actresses seem to be saddened by that decision, claiming there’s been a really great story that’s never gonna be told now, I couldn’t be happier that at least one of the ladies is sensible enough to say no.
Let’s face it, as great as the TV show might have been, the movies were absolutely horrible. I for myself, have decided to ignore their existence altogether. The show has had the best ending in all of TV shows history (at least in my opinion) and there’s simply no need to say more. As much as I would love more episodes… the story has ended there. And it’s fine.
Love it or hate it, if you’ve not seen at least one episode of Sex and the City you’ve probably been living on a different planet. I myself have a love & hate relationship with this show. On some days I wouldn’t watch it even if you paid me, while on other days I can’t wait to sit and press play. Sometimes, the stories of Carrie, Samantha, Charlotte and Miranda, are like a therapy to me. Or like a meet up with my best friends.
And even if some of the episodes will always drive me mad (sometimes I just feel like the girls paint such a bad picture of us women!), there are also episodes I will always absolutely love. Like the one where Big leaves NYC for Napa. As I caught myself watching this episode for like a hundred time few days back – wondering why oh why am I doing this to myself yet again, as it reminds me so much of my very own personal story and therefore killing me… I couldn’t help but wonder, would Big and Carrie stay together in real life? Or would this be it..?
Like it or not there is so much wisdom hidden in Sex and the City. So many life lessons. So many questions asked giving you a chance to answer them for yourself by offering different perspectives. It doesn’t judge. Yes, sometimes it’s hard to see through all that chick talk and sex talk – trust me, I used to despise the show for so long (I mean, 4 girls talking men and sex… really?! I couldn’t stand those talks even in my real life..) but if you do give it a chance, you will be as surprised as I was. It’s not all just about sex and pretty shoes.
In fact, Sex and the City is a great teacher. And for us women it’s extremely empowering. And it’s most definitely still relevant today. Why? Because it’s about relationships. It’s about women. It’s about everything we as women are faced with not only while dating. And at the very core of it it’s about friendship. And none of these things can ever really go out of style, and none of it is ever gonna change much.
I really do believe SATC is timeless (or perhaps ahead of its time?). Before there were all these life coaches we are listening to today, telling you to put yourself first, there was Carrie and there was Samantha trying to deliver the same message.
The most exciting significant relationship in your life is the one you have with yourself. And if you find somebody to love the you you love, well, that’s just fabulous.
And remember when Samantha dumped Richard? Not because she didn’t love him, but because she didn’t trust him enough and was going crazy of it, so she decided she loves herself more and gave up? That’s what I call strong woman.
There are many ways of love and different kinds of relationships in this world and none of them are wrong even if they don’t make any sense to you personally.
When it comes to relationships, maybe we’re all in glass houses, and shouldn’t throw stones. Because you can never really know. Some people are settling down, some are settling and some people refuse to settle for anything less than Butterflies…
For me it’s always gonna be the latter, because I am someone who is looking for love. Real love. Ridiculous. Inconvenient. Consuming. Can’t live without each other love.
Call me naive, call me a hopeless romantic. Perhaps I am. But it’s the only way I can be. Be a realist? Well, save it for yourself if it works for you.
As far as I am concerned, I am never going to just settle. After all, there is absolutely nothing wrong about being single.
Being single used to mean that nobody wanted you. Now it means you’re pretty sexy and you’re taking your time deciding how you want your life to be and who you want to spend it with.
Many times in our lives we are faced the challenge of deciding to listen to either our heart or our mind.
My mind was yelling how angry I was, but my heart…my heart.
Oh my, tell me about it Carrie… I am always gonna be the heart person. Yes, it has gotten me into many troubles, caused me quite a few heartaches but Maybe our mistakes are what make our fate. Without them, what would shape our lives? Perhaps if we never veered off course we wouldn’t fall in love, we wouldn’t have babies, or be who we are. After all, seasons change. So do cities. People come into your life and people go. But it’s comforting to know that the ones you love are always in your heart.
So much in my life would not happen if I didn’t do this or that mistake. If I wasn’t a bit foolish here and then I would not meet the people I’ve met, not had the experiences I hold so dear today, and would certainly not be who I am today. What if you always did the ‘right’ thing? What would your life be like? What would shape your life? And get you where you are supposed to be?
After all, life gives you a lot of chances to screw up which means you have just as many chances to get it right.
And even if you feel like The Universe may not always play fair, at least it’s got a hell of a sense of humor.
And sense of humour is vital, right? 😉
Whatever you do though, do not hold on to your past too tight. Because maybe the past is like an anchor holding us back. Maybe you have to let go of who you were to become who you will be.
I’ve certainly been holding on to my past for far too long but I’m finally ready to let it go, let go of the person I was because I am eager to become the person I will be. And in moments like these, I am grateful to Carrie to remind me.
As for some more topics – it’s also perfectly fine if your only life goal isn’t starting a family. It’s fine if your goals lie elsewhere and it’s fine if you’re not exactly thrilled when you become pregnant and you’re not jumping with joy because you never planned it in the first place. It’s alright. It’s alright you don’t find all kids cute and that you can’t stand screaming and misbehaving kids in restaurants or gyms on the weekends.
Don’t be afraid to be bold even if when men attempt bold gestures, generally it’s considered romantic. When women do it, it’s often considered desperate or psychotic. Just screw it. Think of Samantha and go for it, whatever it is.
Let yourself be in charge. Let yourself be empowered.
Not so long ago, I watched an interview with Sarah Jessica Parker where she was discussing that when they were making the show, they never intended it to be empowering, that that’s just something that happened over time. Yes, it has become empowering because it wasn’t trying to be – the only thing it tried to be was true. True to life. And there’s nothing more empowering than that.
Yes, Big and Carrie would probably not end up together in real life – he would leave for Napa and that would be it… But don’t we all need to believe in happy endings? I certainly do. And I do want to believe people like Carrie and Big could make it work. Because I have to believe it. Otherwise there would be no hope for me. And Charlotte taught me it’s ok to believe in happy endings. We just need to be careful not to push too hard. And then… you never know.
With that said, and with these four strong women in back of my mind, I’m off to the city of dreams for the third time, looking baldly forward to my new adventures, to the new people and new relationships and saying goodbye to the past.
See you in two weeks!